I would check with your wife, as she is the one who primarily rides it. If there is a big weight disparity that may be the only issue...if she does not mind you raising the bike an inch or so, longer travel Progressive shocks would probably serve you well by offering more adjustable range for both of you to enjoy. Just heard on the radio yesterday that 21% of the presents bought for wife or girl friend is a gift the guy felt he would like...!