Hey Guys,
This is the response I got vis email after posing the questions about synthetic oil other than HD products. I like the DEEPER ISSUES comment. This is from Chris Barnes of Barnes Harley Davidson:
Thanks for your response on this matter. I am sorry that you feel the way you do but must assume that you have deeper issues than what was presented in our phone conversation. All I stated was the answer to your question concerning the issues that may arise if you chose to use an aftermarket oil product. I hope that we can retain a business relationship so that all your current and any future concerns can be addressed. 
I have asked Tony (Service manager) to contact you about any questions that you may have. Thank You