This is a great question but one that not everyone likes the answer to. Buy a manual for $63.00 or a machineist's handbook $98. To use the Machinests Handbook you will need to know the materials involved in the fastening (I/e Stainless to Aluminum). Thread size and count. Thread depth, meaning how many threads are enguaged in the fastening. I suggest the service manual as your best bet. Harley does all of this engineering for you.
It gives you every spec and part listing for each application as well as proper materials and Loc-Tite specs and assembly proceedures as well. Remember that you should replace lock washers every time you perform maintenance. I bought an assortment of over 1000 lock washers from Fastenal (The supplier to the Harley Plant here in YORK) pretty cheap. The manual does not recommend this practice. It's my own nutty practice that I picked up from the Navy. Also make sure you use a proper Torque Wrench. I like S&K, you can get them on line at Pro-Tool.com at a reasonable price of about $80 per wrench. Make sure you get a dual scale wrench as well. In all you can buy all this stuff for about what you would save in labor fee's from your dealer in one year.
The manual is a valuable resource and here is a hint, NEVER take your bike to anyone that does not have a manual for it. With the manual and HDtalking you will never need the dealer again, unless you need a t-shirt.